Doing The Right Thing

When you become a divorced family everything changes, which I'm sure you know.  While things can be incredibly tense between Husband and I, I will say that we do the right thing every day when it comes to our daughter.

Yes, she has seen us fight and lately she has been acting out because things have been different.  For the most part though, we show a united front when dealing with LG.  I am very proud of this.

We attend her soccer games and stand together.  We even worked together to get the snacks put together for LG's soccer game this week!  When we are together and LG is acting up we are much better about having each others back in dealing with her, something we weren't great at when we were married.

Another opportunity arose for us this week.  Halloween.  It is "my weekend" and while I could have kept her at my house and taken her trick or treating over here, that would mean that her dad wouldn't see her.  I hate the thought of that.  Mainly, I hate that thought because if she was with her dad this weekend I would be so upset at not getting to spend Halloween with her.

We are going to daddy's to go trick or treating.  LG gets to spend time with both of us and we both get to participate in Halloween with her.  To me it is a win/win.

I have not always been proud of the way I have dealt with things but I am VERY proud of myself for doing the right thing.....the important thing.  The most important thing is that Ashley feel loved and safe and happy with both mom and dad.  If that means putting aside any hurt feelings so that can happen, I am all for it.

Happy Halloween!!!


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  1. amanda cowanOctober 31, 2010 at 12:26 PM

    What a great example you're setting for her. I know that even though my parents are still together, they were separated for a summer when I was young and I don't think they even talked that whole summer. It was messages sent back and forth between us kids and it was a brutal summer. There is something very comforting about seeing your parents together and interacting. So even if she knows you're living apart, she can still feel that unit as a whole when you do things like Trick or treating together. It can't be easy on you, so definitely BRAVO for doing it anyway, knowing it's the best thing for her.

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